Our minds are miraculous! Consciousness gives the ability to reflect on itself, and we can make great use of it. This article supports in re-establishing yourself as the CEO of your life, and having your monkey-mind as your employee. Let me share two observations with you to begin.
Too many drinks and dementia
Last weekend we walked to the train station after a party. My friend said with remarkable clarity: »Wow, I’m so damn drunk. That’s crazy.«. Now who is talking about who there? Is the one that perceives the drunk-body himself drunk? An observation that is so clear… where does it come from in that moment?
Here’s another one: My grandma had dementia and used to say: »When I was younger I was able to remember everything. But now my memory is not working anymore.«. Again, who is making a statement like that? Not the one that suffers from dementia, right?
The peaceful observer
There must be an observer within us who perceives these things without being involved in them. Taking the observer-seat is what re-establishes us as the CEO of our lives and our monkey-minds as the employee.
Here’s how it works: Watch your thoughts. That’s it. Done. It really is that simple – even though practicing it can feel quite difficult in the beginning.
Let’s take one step at a time. We are not our thoughts. We happen to have thoughts. Some people have quite a lot of them. Scientists estimate 60.000 thoughts a day per person. Funny though, that a day has 86.400 seconds. So not every second is filled with a thought, right? Thoughts are coming and going like passing clouds.
Pretty much in the same way we can practice to watch our thoughts instead of getting involved in them. The disentangling happens simply by the act of watching! From the perspective of a hot-air balloon, even the worst traffic jam looks peaceful and serene.
5 reasons to observe your monkey-mind
1. Some people suffer from constant mind-chatter. This can lead to insomnia, stress and physical illness. Observing the monkey-mind creates the space that’s needed for healing and reducing the chatter.
2. Some tend to constantly replay memories of the past to a point where they re-create unwanted life-situations over and over again. Observing the monkey-mind shifts the attention into the present moment.
3. The same goes for those who compulsively think about an imaginary future. »When I achieve this goal I will be happy. When I got my new XYZ I will be happy.« This constant projection is like the carrot in front of a mule. Observing the monkey-mind gives the power and awareness to find happiness in the now.
4. Every conditioned behavior-pattern that we have has the possibility be observed, revealed and done away with if desired. The most important step is to become aware of the patterns by simply observing what’s going on within us.
5. If there is a tendency to worry or judge others or have expectations that are never met, we can start observing this as well. Worries, judgments and expectations are also only thoughts.
Freedom of choice
Our bodies can be drunk, yes. Our brains can suffer from dementia, yes. We can have the wildest and most dreadful thoughts coming up, yes. But our inner observer is neither drunk nor sick, neither guilty of thinking nor clinging onto any wishful idea.
To observe means to become aware.
Being aware is what creates choice.
Choice is freedom.
Happiness is freedom’s friend.