In order to move from the existential No to a Yes, any resistance to the present moment needs to melt down. I want to add something to a quote that I shared recently and bring it together with another quote:
Evolution of consciousness
»Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.« — Eckhart Tolle
The first quote means for me that everything that happens in my life, every thought, every conversation, every feeling happens with the deeper purpose of the evolution of consciousness.
Resisting the present moment
»At the level of the physical gut lies the most rudimentary sense of separate self. It is not conceptual as in self-image, nor is it emotionally based. It is experienced as an existential grasping in the gut. It is self, defending itself against death as well as life. It is an energetic, existential, No.« — Adyashanti
The second quote means that there is a contraction in our gut, in every moment where we are resisting the present moment – where our internal process says »this should not happen«, »i should not think this way about this or that person/about myself« or »i should feel different«.
I found that if I start to feel into the first quote and really relax into the understanding that everything happens for the evoultion of consciousness, I start to see that even the most negative feelings of loneliness, unworthiness, sense of superiority etc. are exactly what I need in a specific moment.
Combined with the second quote: Every time I realize that I am resisting the present moment (many times a day) by thinking »I should feel better now«, »I shouldnt feel superior/inferior to others«, »this and that should not happen this way« or »I want my desires fulfilled « — In these moments I try to let go this grasping/contraction in my gut and completely sink into what there is without trying to change anything with the understanding that it is exactly what there should be.
To move from the existential No to a Yes. I feel this can really be like melting resistance to the present moment. It can help to see that there really is nothing to resist.